Not He or She, I'm Me
What’s inside...
In this bright and joyous picture book, readers follow a day in the life of a young gender non-binary child. The child excitedly gets ready for a wonderful day, dressing up, hugging their parents, going to school, and playing with friends, all while embracing their true self. The book highlights the non-binary experience with vibrant illustrations and a bouncy, fun refrain that emphasizes the use of gender neutral pronouns and affirms the identities of non-binary children, encouraging empathy and understanding. The book is a Stonewall Book Award Honor Book and has been praised for spotlighting the warmth of everyday gender euphoria.
Series reading
Non-Sequential
Age
3-6
Length
32 pages
Text complexity
Discussion points
What do you think it means when the main character says, 'I'm Me'?
How did the story make you feel when the character was happy or sad?
Why do you think it's important for everyone to be seen for who they truly are?
What are some ways you can show kindness to someone who is different from you?
Can you think of a time you felt different and how you dealt with that feeling?
Tip: Role play these questions
While discussing, emphasize that everyone's feelings are important, validating your child's thoughts and emotions.
Create a friendly space where your child feels comfortable expressing their thoughts without judgment.
Use examples from the book to relate to real-life scenarios, helping your child connect themes to their world.
Encourage empathy by asking your child how they would feel in the main character’s situation.
Celebrate the diversity and uniqueness of individuals, highlighting the beauty of being oneself.
Key lessons
Example Lesson: Embracing Identity
Explanation: The story follows a child who does not conform to traditional gender norms, teaching children to embrace and express their true self.
Real-World Application: Children learn to respect their own identities and feel confident expressing themselves in various social settings.
Example Lesson: Acceptance of Others
Explanation: The book portrays interactions where peers learn to accept and celebrate differences, highlighting the importance of inclusivity.
Real-World Application: This lesson encourages children to be open-minded and accepting towards friends and classmates who may be different from them.
Example Lesson: Understanding Gender Diversity
Explanation: Through its characters, 'Not He or She, I'm Me' introduces the concept of non-binary and gender fluidity to young readers in an accessible way.
Real-World Application: Equips children with the understanding and vocabulary to discuss gender diversity, fostering empathy and reducing stigma.
Example Lesson: Courage in Self-Expression
Explanation: The protagonist's journey in the book shows bravery in expressing their gender identity despite societal norms.
Real-World Application: Inspires children to stand up for themselves and others, and to express their thoughts and feelings authentically.
Example Lesson: The Value of Supportive Communities
Explanation: The book highlights how supportive friends and family are crucial for the protagonist's happiness and self-acceptance.
Real-World Application: Teaches children the importance of building and maintaining supportive networks, emphasizing kindness and help towards others.