Tips on Having a Gay (Ex) Boyfriend
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FROM THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF NEED AND CAPTIVATE Winner of the 2008 Maine Literary Award! It isn't every day that my high school boyfriend, Eastbrook High School's Harvest King, tells me he's gay. It's not every day that the Harvest Queen is dumped in the middle of a road with the stars watching the humiliation and the dogs barking because they want to come help tear my heart out and leave it on the cold gray ground. It isn't every day that my entire world falls apart. Belle believes that Dylan is her true love—maybe even her soulmate. Until one cold night when Dylan drops the ultimate bomb: he's gay. Where, Belle wonders, does that leave her? Should she have somehow been able to tell? Is every guy that she loves going to turn out to be gay? This beautifully-written debut explores what happens when you are suddenly forced to see someone in a different light, and what that can teach you about yourself.
Character compass
Belle Philbrick
Dylan
Discussion points
How did Belle's experience in the story help you understand the complexities of relationships?
What are some ways Belle shows resilience throughout her challenges?
In what ways do the characters in the book demonstrate acceptance and understanding?
Why do you think communication is important in relationships, as shown in the story?
How can we apply the lessons learned from this book to our own lives?
Tip: Role play these questions
Before starting the discussion, praise your child for any insights they share, reinforcing that their thoughts and feelings are valued.
Use examples from the book to illustrate points, making connections between the characters’ experiences and real-life scenarios your child might encounter.
Encourage your child to consider different perspectives by asking them how different characters might feel in various situations.
Keep the discussion open-ended without looking for 'right' answers, focusing more on understanding and empathy.
Relate the themes of the book to current events or societal issues, making the conversation relevant and current.
Key lessons
Example Lesson: Empathy and Understanding
Explanation: The protagonist navigates complex emotions following a breakup with her boyfriend who comes out as gay, showing the reader the importance of empathy in understanding others' perspectives and feelings.
Real-World Application: Children can apply this lesson by being supportive and considerate of their friends' feelings and situations, promoting a more empathetic and inclusive environment in their own lives.
Example Lesson: Resilience in Adversity
Explanation: As the main character deals with personal and social challenges, the narrative highlights the strength it takes to adapt to change and to overcome emotional struggles.
Real-World Application: This teaches children that while facing tough times is part of life, having courage and resilience can help them move forward positively.
Example Lesson: Identity and Self-Acceptance
Explanation: Through its exploration of personal identity and acceptance, the book demonstrates the importance of being true to oneself despite societal pressures or expectations.
Real-World Application: Children learn the significance of embracing their own individuality and expressing themselves authentically in their daily interactions and decisions.
Example Lesson: Navigating Relationships
Explanation: The book covers themes of love, friendship, and personal growth, illustrating the complexities and importance of maintaining healthy relationships.
Real-World Application: This can help children understand the value of mutual respect and communication in friendships and other relationships as they grow.
Example Lesson: Dealing with Change
Explanation: The characters' experiences with change provide a narrative on adapting to new circumstances, emphasizing flexibility and open-mindedness.
Real-World Application: Children can use this lesson to become more adaptable and open to changes in their lives, such as moving to a new school or changes within the family.